Who knew? Three years after starting this blog, I would revisit it to see that I am living the promise I made myself. I have earned my degree as a Paralegal, graduating with Honors; spent the last 3-years working in two local law firms; most recently in Family law; and now started my own office from home, "Schaller-Stonehouse Paralegal Consultants of PA/NJ, LLC". My dream of advocating for others has finally become a reality. My office will work with adult individuals to take control of their legal situation in family and civil law so that they can save thousands of dollars they would otherwise pay an Attorney to do what they can do for themselves, pro-se.
Stay tuned for more updates. Please contact me at tanean@schaller-stonehousepc.com if you have any questions.
Please note, I am NOT an Attorney and cannot offer legal advise. I am here to help you, empower and help yourself.
Regards,
Tanean
Friday, April 13, 2012
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Update
I am very happy to report there has been resolve to the case. My daughters father has been awarded Social Security disability benefits which entitles her to $531/mo in dependant benefits. In addition, she will receive $116 in additional support/arrears. I do not believe he is in fact disabled, but a convincing hypochondriac, but for the first time in 15 years and until she is 18 I will receive consistent support monthly for my daughter. It is about time. Thank the dear LORD for answered prayers, persistence and the knowledge to pursue what is rightfully my daughters.
Thank you to all for reading!
Thank you to all for reading!
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
09/02/09
I am happy to report that I had an appointment with Social Security today regarding Eric's claim and he was in fact approved for SSD and has been receiving benefits since last month. I was informed that the approx $500 dependant benefits that are alloted will be divided between my daughter Alexis and her half sister. In addition, I return later this month and they will also attached the child support obligation to what receives. Having spoken to my PA CS case worker today, there has been a modifaction request received, after her office reviews it, we will be going to court for modification of the support order.
I am excited to see that there will finally be resolve to this case. Check back and I will continue to keep you posted.
YIPPEE!!!
I am excited to see that there will finally be resolve to this case. Check back and I will continue to keep you posted.
YIPPEE!!!
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
09/01/09
As of last week I received correspondence from my case worker once again Eric Broennle has a Dr's not stating he has two (2) medical conditions that cause him to be unable to work, but they (Broennle/Hernando County) has fail to respond to the question for how long this note is for. In addition, he has tried AGAIN (as I previously posted his does this at least twice a year) filed for SSD. I was advised to set an appointment with SS to claim dependant benefits for my daughter. So, this week I have an appointment with social security. I will let you know how that works out. If in fact he does receive these benefits I will then file a civil suit to collect the noted arrears.
I will keep you posted :)
I will keep you posted :)
Saturday, August 15, 2009
08/15/09
Well, summer is coming to a close and my beautiful daughter is soon to enter her sophmore year of High School. This is pretty exciting. In addition, only 5 more months until her HUGE Sweet 16 Birthday bash! I swear it's like planning a wedding!
With school starting, there is school shopping, of course...considering her Dead Beat Father, there has been no additional child support. But, there would be no post for me to report on if he was an upstanding citizen and upheld his obligations as a father, right?
Nonetheless, she will certainly enjoy school clothes shopping and we already have all the school supplies, so we are almost there.
I too return to school full-time the same day she does, taking a full-time schedule while collecting unemployment, this will allow me to jump start my career as a Paralegal in spring that much quicker. I will have less than one year remaining following spring and I am pretty stoked! This career move will allow me to hopefully prevent other families from going through what I have been through over the last 15 years and will allow me greater access to networks to put an end to this cases drama, so stay tuned, I will keep you posted on my success!!!
Well, as mentioned no other monies received on the case since July 15, 2009 which means that the arrears are now $21,359.02 as of 08/15/09.
I am happy to report that Eric Broennle (Dead Beat Parent) and Kim (Rodenbaugh) Broennle (spouse) actively view this blog. That is an entertaining thought for me, as the writer, for a will not spare one moment to report Eric's shortcomings as provider to his biological daughter, regardless of who is reading!
So, Happy Close of summer to all (minus those mentioned in the later part of this update) and I will return soon with additional update.
~ Ciao
With school starting, there is school shopping, of course...considering her Dead Beat Father, there has been no additional child support. But, there would be no post for me to report on if he was an upstanding citizen and upheld his obligations as a father, right?
Nonetheless, she will certainly enjoy school clothes shopping and we already have all the school supplies, so we are almost there.
I too return to school full-time the same day she does, taking a full-time schedule while collecting unemployment, this will allow me to jump start my career as a Paralegal in spring that much quicker. I will have less than one year remaining following spring and I am pretty stoked! This career move will allow me to hopefully prevent other families from going through what I have been through over the last 15 years and will allow me greater access to networks to put an end to this cases drama, so stay tuned, I will keep you posted on my success!!!
Well, as mentioned no other monies received on the case since July 15, 2009 which means that the arrears are now $21,359.02 as of 08/15/09.
I am happy to report that Eric Broennle (Dead Beat Parent) and Kim (Rodenbaugh) Broennle (spouse) actively view this blog. That is an entertaining thought for me, as the writer, for a will not spare one moment to report Eric's shortcomings as provider to his biological daughter, regardless of who is reading!
So, Happy Close of summer to all (minus those mentioned in the later part of this update) and I will return soon with additional update.
~ Ciao
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Update
Sorry it's been a while, with summer, changing computers...work, school, life...I lost track of time and this.
Nothing new on the case. One payment was made on July 15, 2009 which was marked as an intercept. Uncertain what type of an intercept whether it be the partial of the Tax Refund PA case worker was unable to determine. Considering NJ, PA and Fl all hold any excess above the weekly payment in their system and have not released anything since. I too have no idea. Nonetheless, I was grateful for what came.
I am now a full-time student (after attending one year part-time credits) in order to more quickly complete my degree as a Paralegal. I am looking forward to working in the field.
That is all for now. Thanks for your interest in this case.
Nothing new on the case. One payment was made on July 15, 2009 which was marked as an intercept. Uncertain what type of an intercept whether it be the partial of the Tax Refund PA case worker was unable to determine. Considering NJ, PA and Fl all hold any excess above the weekly payment in their system and have not released anything since. I too have no idea. Nonetheless, I was grateful for what came.
I am now a full-time student (after attending one year part-time credits) in order to more quickly complete my degree as a Paralegal. I am looking forward to working in the field.
That is all for now. Thanks for your interest in this case.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Current Status
Well, as of today, Eric has still failed to file the petition to have the case heard for a reduction of the child support obligation. I wish it could be as easy as having him sign off any further responsibility if he would just pay the arrears in full, but the courts and I know that will never be the case. So, the saga continues. We have three years until she is 18 and 4 years of undergraduate school to continue to pay.
The current amount owed on the case is as noted below.
The current amount owed on the case is as noted below.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
2008-9 Payments on Our Case
Ok, I figured I would keep the totals running on here. Here is what was paid in 2008 as well as 2009. I will keep this up to date each time a payment is made.
UPDATE: Ok, as of June 2, 2009 (see above recent post for updates)I have heard from PA and after speaking with Florida we now know that Eric has filed for an amendment to the child support case. It's about time. Considering that for anyone who has read the history, I went to have the case reduced back on Sept. Oct. and Nov. 2006 but he failed to show (mail came back undeliverable). Had he not been in hiding from that current bench warrant he would have had this case reduced years ago. Regardless, the $20K+ in arrears are what they are and will not go away. Whether they payments are $50 and $200 the result will be the same, contempt for failure to pay! That is what DEADBEAT PARENTS do!
So, I will appear via the phone and will present all case details.
I will keep you all posted!
As of 5/14/09 Eric has not complied with the recent order to remain current. Awaiting status of bench warrant.
Arrears as of 05/16/09:
$20,485.02
2009
To The State of PA
05/20/2009 $4.00 SERIOUSLY...lol...wooo this set him WAAAAY back....
05/05/2009 $250.00 (Eric Broennle)
02/18/2009 $284.00 (unknown source)
02/11/2009 $213.00 (unknown source)
02/04/2009 $142.00 unknown source)
01/28/2009 $71.00 (unknown source)
To The State of NJ
-0- (IRS INTERCEPT EXPECTED for 2009 per NJCS Site)
2008
To The State of NJ
Jun. 13, 2008 $849.00 (IRS Intercept)
May. 27, 2008 $1,416.55 (IRS Intercept)
Jan. 09, 2008 $79.00 (employer)
To The State of PA
09/04/2008 $4.00 (unknown)
UPDATE: Ok, as of June 2, 2009 (see above recent post for updates)I have heard from PA and after speaking with Florida we now know that Eric has filed for an amendment to the child support case. It's about time. Considering that for anyone who has read the history, I went to have the case reduced back on Sept. Oct. and Nov. 2006 but he failed to show (mail came back undeliverable). Had he not been in hiding from that current bench warrant he would have had this case reduced years ago. Regardless, the $20K+ in arrears are what they are and will not go away. Whether they payments are $50 and $200 the result will be the same, contempt for failure to pay! That is what DEADBEAT PARENTS do!
So, I will appear via the phone and will present all case details.
I will keep you all posted!
As of 5/14/09 Eric has not complied with the recent order to remain current. Awaiting status of bench warrant.
Arrears as of 05/16/09:
$20,485.02
2009
To The State of PA
05/20/2009 $4.00 SERIOUSLY...lol...wooo this set him WAAAAY back....
05/05/2009 $250.00 (Eric Broennle)
02/18/2009 $284.00 (unknown source)
02/11/2009 $213.00 (unknown source)
02/04/2009 $142.00 unknown source)
01/28/2009 $71.00 (unknown source)
To The State of NJ
-0- (IRS INTERCEPT EXPECTED for 2009 per NJCS Site)
2008
To The State of NJ
Jun. 13, 2008 $849.00 (IRS Intercept)
May. 27, 2008 $1,416.55 (IRS Intercept)
Jan. 09, 2008 $79.00 (employer)
To The State of PA
09/04/2008 $4.00 (unknown)
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Update as of 4/8/09
I have just received correspondence from my child support case worker I am happy to report the following update. I have yet to receive a copy of the final order, but I am happy to receive notice that if he fails to pay as order there will be incarceration.
Email body:
A call was placed to the Florida Courts. The hearing was held on 4/2/09 and defendant was found in contempt. He was ordered to pay the $250.00 by May 1 and remain current. If he fails to do so and arrest warrant is to be issued and he will be automatically sent to jail. The worker said their Courts jail term is 169 days unless otherwise specified.
An electronic update was received today that Florida has a possible employer for the defendant. However the employer information was not included. So hopefully he found a job. It generally takes 4-6 weeks until a wage attachment is implemented by an employer and since the alert was received, it does mean that Florida did send an attachment.
END
To my readers,
Remember, sometime you need to lose the fight to win the war!!! So, although he was not ordered to pay the posted purge set at $3090 as set forth by the original hearing officer for failure to appear at the first contempt hearing and as stated on the warrant, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
To Be Continued.....
Email body:
A call was placed to the Florida Courts. The hearing was held on 4/2/09 and defendant was found in contempt. He was ordered to pay the $250.00 by May 1 and remain current. If he fails to do so and arrest warrant is to be issued and he will be automatically sent to jail. The worker said their Courts jail term is 169 days unless otherwise specified.
An electronic update was received today that Florida has a possible employer for the defendant. However the employer information was not included. So hopefully he found a job. It generally takes 4-6 weeks until a wage attachment is implemented by an employer and since the alert was received, it does mean that Florida did send an attachment.
END
To my readers,
Remember, sometime you need to lose the fight to win the war!!! So, although he was not ordered to pay the posted purge set at $3090 as set forth by the original hearing officer for failure to appear at the first contempt hearing and as stated on the warrant, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
To Be Continued.....
Friday, April 3, 2009
Overview of the last 3 years
Timeline: (rough draft)
Lets go back just over the last 3 years or so.
In June 2006, I finally filed for legal sole custody of my daughter. Although I have had it since she was 3 months old and no direct contact with her father. This went uncontested and he had not appeared for the hearing, but his then girlfriend Kim R. (now wife) did. Although she failed to provide her information when asked by the court clerk which party she was presenting for, unknowingly, Kim was speaking to my foster sister, Ann. So, the joke was on her, as Ann already knew who she was. Meanwhile another clerk of the courts brought me out my order signed by the judge prior to any hearing being presented. That was short, sweet and easily done. **This was done pro se in Warren County, NJ.
In June 2006, a bench warrant was issued for contempt of court for failure to pay the court ordered support. At this time, his license was also suspended.
In Sept. 2006, I filed to have my child support decreased to $100/wk as it was $193 at the time (plus arrearage of $42). I did this in an attempt to regulate payments. Eric was unable to be served. So, although I appeared, it was continued. This happened for October and November as well. In November, the hearing officer dismissed it for lack of service. **This motion, also filed pro-se with Warren County, NJ.
In July 2007, Warren County received notice that Eric had obtained residence in Spring Hill, Fl. The case was now to be transferred to Hernando County, Fl. So, in October 2007, I transferred my case to Pennsylvania as that is where I reside. I took a few months so I could find out who he moved down there with, information on businesses his family owned and license details for these businesses. PLEASE NOTE: It is important not to go into any business ranting and raving about your rights as the custodial parent. If I learned one thing, from the beginning it is to DO YOUR HOMEWORK! The more leg work you do, the more validity you have and your case has and the quicker the department representing you can work on your behalf. So be prepared and do as much legwork as possible. DO NOT go in with he said/she said garble. Have documents, proof in writing that can substantiate what you are saying. Most civil and criminal records, divorce decrees, marriage cert., even traffic violations can be found for free online. Even if you have to spend a few bucks, which trust me over the years I have, it is worth it. Do not complain that nothing is getting done on your case if you are not willing to put forth a little effort to get the job done.
In January 2008, after having no response from PA in regard to my case. I began to write letters to The State of Florida Child Support Commissioners Office, Clerks office, State Representatives in my locale as well as his and my case began to receive the attention it was entitled too. Sometimes when working interstate cases, your case can get lost in the shuffle. Be persistent! You know what they say about the squeaky wheel. I began to receive responses almost immediately. Phone calls from Child Support and a game plan was being established. Everyone was getting on the same page.
In March 2008, I started to call Attorney’s in Spring Hill, thinking that if I have an attorney to represent me in that state that I would be better off. They advised me that after all I have done for my case on my own, that there was little more they can do and I was on the right track. They (All 4 Attorney’s I had phone consults with) did however provide me a name and contact in the Florida State Dept of Revenue and explained that once my case was in arrears as high as it was that it is no longer in Child Support but in the hands of the Florida Dept. Of Revenue. I made a phone call and was pleasantly surprised that all I have done were the best, most proactive steps I could have taken. I provided all the details to the office and was assured that it needed just another couple of months and I would see action on my case. Waiting was the hardest part, but I felt confident in this individual.
In May and June of 2008, I did receive 2 lump sums from Income Tax Intercept. That was helpful, but not as though he did it out of the goodness of his heart or the desire to provide for his child. But, I was glad that intercept was set up through child support.
By Mid 2008 Florida did in fact suspend his drivers’ license. They also attached the arrears to all reporting credit boroughs and at one point were able to detach his wages. But, considering he works off the books more than on, that is harder to do. He contested the suspension of his license and they scheduled him for a hearing to prove otherwise. He never showed! He requests a hearing and does not show! So, the suspension goes through.
By September 2008, The State of Florida indicates to PACS that they have located an employer and would be collecting from his employer against his wages. He must have left his job as soon as he knew that they were preparing to take the money as this did not happen. By early December 2008, I had not heard much and little more was done. So, I contacted my local State Representative. Within 24 hours, he was on the phone with the Director of Child Support. He called me with specifics that would be done with my case. She was in touch with Florida and once again, they got the ball rolling.
February 2009 a Contempt hearing is scheduled. Of course, Eric fails to appear. So, a warrant for his arrest is issued. (Mind you, he still has no license, how does he get around?) I hear nothing. So, March 19, I contact Hernando County Sheriff’s Dept, via email. I hear back within an hour. I provide them all the details I have on his current whereabouts as he has moved 3 times in one year (2 evictions). By 4:30 that afternoon after working together, Eric is detained and goes in front of the First Appearance judge on 3/20/09. He is then scheduled to appear 4/2/09 for his contempt hearing. Having been in touch with HCDOR contact and faxed all pertinent details, I know what to expect (this is one of those times when you will not hear what you want to hear, but patience is key. It is better to lose the fight and win the war, if you know what I mean.) Eric has always made multiple claims he is “unable” to work. His only illness is addiction, but he has yet to recognize that. He claims that do to having familial tremors that he is unable to work. While working in the medical field, I worked for a top Nephrology Surgeon who has had familial tremors since the age of 8 years old. A SURGEON, so you tell me!...Anyway, A judge sees his God awful ragged appearance (as seen in his mug shot) and a man shaking and too the untrained eye, you may think something is truly wrong. (But, provide the courts video of activities in daily life and actually working, that changes the playing field altogether!) But, getting back to the claims; he will work for an employer for 2 weeks, maybe a month and then file a bogus workers comp claim, this has happened more times then you can throw pennies in a wishing well. He has filed for social security and disability and has been rejected at approx. 10 times in the last 6 years. He is relentless. He genuinely expects that everyone else will pay for him while he works off the books. Needless to say, at the hearing he is ordered to pay $250 by May 1st, 2009 and remain current on all weekly payments ($206 + $42/arrears wkly). I am confident that he will be arrested by the time the end of May. Hence, lose a fight to win the war.
To be continued….
Lets go back just over the last 3 years or so.
In June 2006, I finally filed for legal sole custody of my daughter. Although I have had it since she was 3 months old and no direct contact with her father. This went uncontested and he had not appeared for the hearing, but his then girlfriend Kim R. (now wife) did. Although she failed to provide her information when asked by the court clerk which party she was presenting for, unknowingly, Kim was speaking to my foster sister, Ann. So, the joke was on her, as Ann already knew who she was. Meanwhile another clerk of the courts brought me out my order signed by the judge prior to any hearing being presented. That was short, sweet and easily done. **This was done pro se in Warren County, NJ.
In June 2006, a bench warrant was issued for contempt of court for failure to pay the court ordered support. At this time, his license was also suspended.
In Sept. 2006, I filed to have my child support decreased to $100/wk as it was $193 at the time (plus arrearage of $42). I did this in an attempt to regulate payments. Eric was unable to be served. So, although I appeared, it was continued. This happened for October and November as well. In November, the hearing officer dismissed it for lack of service. **This motion, also filed pro-se with Warren County, NJ.
In July 2007, Warren County received notice that Eric had obtained residence in Spring Hill, Fl. The case was now to be transferred to Hernando County, Fl. So, in October 2007, I transferred my case to Pennsylvania as that is where I reside. I took a few months so I could find out who he moved down there with, information on businesses his family owned and license details for these businesses. PLEASE NOTE: It is important not to go into any business ranting and raving about your rights as the custodial parent. If I learned one thing, from the beginning it is to DO YOUR HOMEWORK! The more leg work you do, the more validity you have and your case has and the quicker the department representing you can work on your behalf. So be prepared and do as much legwork as possible. DO NOT go in with he said/she said garble. Have documents, proof in writing that can substantiate what you are saying. Most civil and criminal records, divorce decrees, marriage cert., even traffic violations can be found for free online. Even if you have to spend a few bucks, which trust me over the years I have, it is worth it. Do not complain that nothing is getting done on your case if you are not willing to put forth a little effort to get the job done.
In January 2008, after having no response from PA in regard to my case. I began to write letters to The State of Florida Child Support Commissioners Office, Clerks office, State Representatives in my locale as well as his and my case began to receive the attention it was entitled too. Sometimes when working interstate cases, your case can get lost in the shuffle. Be persistent! You know what they say about the squeaky wheel. I began to receive responses almost immediately. Phone calls from Child Support and a game plan was being established. Everyone was getting on the same page.
In March 2008, I started to call Attorney’s in Spring Hill, thinking that if I have an attorney to represent me in that state that I would be better off. They advised me that after all I have done for my case on my own, that there was little more they can do and I was on the right track. They (All 4 Attorney’s I had phone consults with) did however provide me a name and contact in the Florida State Dept of Revenue and explained that once my case was in arrears as high as it was that it is no longer in Child Support but in the hands of the Florida Dept. Of Revenue. I made a phone call and was pleasantly surprised that all I have done were the best, most proactive steps I could have taken. I provided all the details to the office and was assured that it needed just another couple of months and I would see action on my case. Waiting was the hardest part, but I felt confident in this individual.
In May and June of 2008, I did receive 2 lump sums from Income Tax Intercept. That was helpful, but not as though he did it out of the goodness of his heart or the desire to provide for his child. But, I was glad that intercept was set up through child support.
By Mid 2008 Florida did in fact suspend his drivers’ license. They also attached the arrears to all reporting credit boroughs and at one point were able to detach his wages. But, considering he works off the books more than on, that is harder to do. He contested the suspension of his license and they scheduled him for a hearing to prove otherwise. He never showed! He requests a hearing and does not show! So, the suspension goes through.
By September 2008, The State of Florida indicates to PACS that they have located an employer and would be collecting from his employer against his wages. He must have left his job as soon as he knew that they were preparing to take the money as this did not happen. By early December 2008, I had not heard much and little more was done. So, I contacted my local State Representative. Within 24 hours, he was on the phone with the Director of Child Support. He called me with specifics that would be done with my case. She was in touch with Florida and once again, they got the ball rolling.
February 2009 a Contempt hearing is scheduled. Of course, Eric fails to appear. So, a warrant for his arrest is issued. (Mind you, he still has no license, how does he get around?) I hear nothing. So, March 19, I contact Hernando County Sheriff’s Dept, via email. I hear back within an hour. I provide them all the details I have on his current whereabouts as he has moved 3 times in one year (2 evictions). By 4:30 that afternoon after working together, Eric is detained and goes in front of the First Appearance judge on 3/20/09. He is then scheduled to appear 4/2/09 for his contempt hearing. Having been in touch with HCDOR contact and faxed all pertinent details, I know what to expect (this is one of those times when you will not hear what you want to hear, but patience is key. It is better to lose the fight and win the war, if you know what I mean.) Eric has always made multiple claims he is “unable” to work. His only illness is addiction, but he has yet to recognize that. He claims that do to having familial tremors that he is unable to work. While working in the medical field, I worked for a top Nephrology Surgeon who has had familial tremors since the age of 8 years old. A SURGEON, so you tell me!...Anyway, A judge sees his God awful ragged appearance (as seen in his mug shot) and a man shaking and too the untrained eye, you may think something is truly wrong. (But, provide the courts video of activities in daily life and actually working, that changes the playing field altogether!) But, getting back to the claims; he will work for an employer for 2 weeks, maybe a month and then file a bogus workers comp claim, this has happened more times then you can throw pennies in a wishing well. He has filed for social security and disability and has been rejected at approx. 10 times in the last 6 years. He is relentless. He genuinely expects that everyone else will pay for him while he works off the books. Needless to say, at the hearing he is ordered to pay $250 by May 1st, 2009 and remain current on all weekly payments ($206 + $42/arrears wkly). I am confident that he will be arrested by the time the end of May. Hence, lose a fight to win the war.
To be continued….
The Key
To those readers who know what I am referring to in my posts and face the struggles as mentioned. It is important to remember to STAY FOCUSED! STAY POSITIVE! and BE PERSISTENT!
It is so important to remember, this fight is NOT for YOU! This is for YOUR CHILD(REN). It tends to be the adults that feel that they are being attacked (the DEADBEAT) or that you are fighting a losing battle or are the victim of the DEADBEAT. YOU are NOT the VICTIM. Unfortunately, some parents fail to recognize that it's the child that is being hurt by the DEADBEATS unwillingness to provide for his/her child. Regardless of whether or not the absent DEADBEAT parent wants to pay he/she MUST pay. The arrears will not go away, they don't disappear when he/she does. They continue to grow. No one can continue to carry a $18-$100K burden on his/her back. IT WILL CATCH UP WITH THEM and the fight and desire to run will come to an end. Whether it be the Sheriff's Dept that stops it with serving an arrest warrant, or they are pulled over and have had their license revoked due to the arrears, or the parents desire to stop running (HEY, don't lose hope that the person you once thought to be a decent human being (or not) can't make the right choice to turn his/her life around) and do the right thing for his/her child.
Bottomline, keep focused for the right reasons, set aside how you feel, whether distain, hurt, anger for this person and STAY POSITIVE. That person is GONE, out of YOUR life but still has a LEGAL OBLIGATION to YOUR CHILD(REN). You ARE responsible for being a role model and positive example to your child. Set your standards higher, raise the bar if you will. Rise above and keep your focus! STAY POSITIVE!
Ok, that is the end of this rant.
Thanks for reading!
It is so important to remember, this fight is NOT for YOU! This is for YOUR CHILD(REN). It tends to be the adults that feel that they are being attacked (the DEADBEAT) or that you are fighting a losing battle or are the victim of the DEADBEAT. YOU are NOT the VICTIM. Unfortunately, some parents fail to recognize that it's the child that is being hurt by the DEADBEATS unwillingness to provide for his/her child. Regardless of whether or not the absent DEADBEAT parent wants to pay he/she MUST pay. The arrears will not go away, they don't disappear when he/she does. They continue to grow. No one can continue to carry a $18-$100K burden on his/her back. IT WILL CATCH UP WITH THEM and the fight and desire to run will come to an end. Whether it be the Sheriff's Dept that stops it with serving an arrest warrant, or they are pulled over and have had their license revoked due to the arrears, or the parents desire to stop running (HEY, don't lose hope that the person you once thought to be a decent human being (or not) can't make the right choice to turn his/her life around) and do the right thing for his/her child.
Bottomline, keep focused for the right reasons, set aside how you feel, whether distain, hurt, anger for this person and STAY POSITIVE. That person is GONE, out of YOUR life but still has a LEGAL OBLIGATION to YOUR CHILD(REN). You ARE responsible for being a role model and positive example to your child. Set your standards higher, raise the bar if you will. Rise above and keep your focus! STAY POSITIVE!
Ok, that is the end of this rant.
Thanks for reading!
4/3/09
If I have learned one thing in the last 15 years of being a single parent with sole legal and physical rights of my daughter, that PERSISTENCE is KEY!
“In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins. Not through strength, but through persistence.”
"All Positive Efforts deem Positive Results! "
I have had 15 years of filing motions (pro se), warrants, arrests, they catch up with him...he, like a coward runs again. But, the time that a DEADBEAT parent wins is when the custodial parent throws up their hands and gives up. Giving up empowers the DEADBEAT parent and clearly they have not earned the right to have any power.
KUDOS to those committed parents who never give up, who keep the power out of DEADBEAT parents hands. For those parents who are ready to give up or have given up all hope, a word of advice "SNAP OUT OF IT!" This fight is NOT about YOU and is certainly NOT about the DEADBEAT parent, this fight is for the child and enforcing that childs right to be provided for by both parents.
My quest and mission and journey has been and will continue to be dedicated to enforcing my daughters right to be provided for and have those things she is entitled too. I have changed my area of education and career from 10+ years dedicated to the medical field to work towards earning my degree as a Paralegal (currently working in non profit for those less fortunate) so I may be better equip to help fight the fight against DEADBEAT PARENTS.
Here is a link of satisfaction. The hope that lets you know that this fight is worth it! Although you may not get every answer you may want, each time...the ultimate victory is when justice prevails, and the rights of your child are enforced.
http://www.hernandosheriff.org/applications/records/arrests.aspx?Date1=&Date2=&FirstName=&LastName=broennle&submit3=Submit
After moving 3 times in one year and making every attempt to avoid a warrant in NJ and then in Florida, after losing his license in both state and being reported to all credit reporting agencies, and after working closely with the Hernando County Sheriff's Office and Florida Dept of Revenue, this case is and will be enforced. DEADBEAT parents can run, but they can not hide.
It's up to YOU, the custodial parent to keep fighting, the most victorious battles are won with persistence and perseverance. Expect a battle scar or two, use each one as a STEPPING STONE NOT A STUMBLING BLOCK! Remember, once you throw up your hands in defeat to a DEADBEAT parent you empower them and give them a chance to run...Keep looking straight ahead, never losing sight of your prey! Keep the fight, taste the VICTORY!
“In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins. Not through strength, but through persistence.”
"All Positive Efforts deem Positive Results! "
I have had 15 years of filing motions (pro se), warrants, arrests, they catch up with him...he, like a coward runs again. But, the time that a DEADBEAT parent wins is when the custodial parent throws up their hands and gives up. Giving up empowers the DEADBEAT parent and clearly they have not earned the right to have any power.
KUDOS to those committed parents who never give up, who keep the power out of DEADBEAT parents hands. For those parents who are ready to give up or have given up all hope, a word of advice "SNAP OUT OF IT!" This fight is NOT about YOU and is certainly NOT about the DEADBEAT parent, this fight is for the child and enforcing that childs right to be provided for by both parents.
My quest and mission and journey has been and will continue to be dedicated to enforcing my daughters right to be provided for and have those things she is entitled too. I have changed my area of education and career from 10+ years dedicated to the medical field to work towards earning my degree as a Paralegal (currently working in non profit for those less fortunate) so I may be better equip to help fight the fight against DEADBEAT PARENTS.
Here is a link of satisfaction. The hope that lets you know that this fight is worth it! Although you may not get every answer you may want, each time...the ultimate victory is when justice prevails, and the rights of your child are enforced.
http://www.hernandosheriff.org/applications/records/arrests.aspx?Date1=&Date2=&FirstName=&LastName=broennle&submit3=Submit
After moving 3 times in one year and making every attempt to avoid a warrant in NJ and then in Florida, after losing his license in both state and being reported to all credit reporting agencies, and after working closely with the Hernando County Sheriff's Office and Florida Dept of Revenue, this case is and will be enforced. DEADBEAT parents can run, but they can not hide.
It's up to YOU, the custodial parent to keep fighting, the most victorious battles are won with persistence and perseverance. Expect a battle scar or two, use each one as a STEPPING STONE NOT A STUMBLING BLOCK! Remember, once you throw up your hands in defeat to a DEADBEAT parent you empower them and give them a chance to run...Keep looking straight ahead, never losing sight of your prey! Keep the fight, taste the VICTORY!
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Here I will keeping you posted about my case against my daughter's DEADBEAT father. I have been on this very familiar battleground with this person for some 15 years.
A little history:
I have had legal sole and physical custody of my beautiful daughter who is now 15. This has been a beautiful journey raising her. She is now a Freshman in High School and an Honor Roll student (throughout her schooling). I count my blessings EVERYDAY for the beautiful gift that the good Lord has given me.
Unfortunately, her father (I use that term loosely) has been absent, regardless of the attempts I have made throughout her life to include him. This man is on his second marriage (left his first wife for this one), and thankfully he and I were never married. He severely abuses alcohol and smokes as many as 3 packs of cigs per day. Expensive addictions!
There were times when my daughter would get so upset that she did not have her father, especially after the times when she did meet him and he rejected her and she felt so upset. Her memory of him amounts to nothing more than the 3 months she did see him (when she was 8 years old) on and off (while we lived in the same town in NJ) that he would wake up, drink a cup of coffee and orange juice and the rest of the day it was beer and cigarettes. I, unlike many parents with an absent parent and raising a child, made every attempt NOT to bad mouthed him to her face, nor would I allow her to disrespect him. But, I have always been a firm believer that he was to be accountable for how he was making her feel. There was a short period of time when she would get so upset, and I would listen and then I said "Now, here is a card (3X5 index) and you write how you are feeling. "Today I feel..."" and then once a month we would mail them to him. I will always be here to listen and support her, but he should be held accountable for how he made her feel, whether it was good or bad. This lasted about 2 months then trickled off. Needless to say, she never heard back from him.
He never once sent birthday cards, holidays were here and gone with no contact etc. Even his family disowned her, even prior to birth.
A shame really, but bottomline, whether he is here in person or not, he is still financially responsible to her. NOT TO ME! But to her!
So...for 15 years, I have dedicated my life to raising her in a loving, caring, respectful environment. Not saying I was perfect all these years. No one is, but she knows without a doubt I am and will always be here to love, nurture and support her.
After spending 10+ years working in the medical field clinically, in management and teaching, I have intentially changed direction in my career. I am dedicated to earning my degree as a Paralegal so that I may better advocate against DEADBEAT Parents. I now work for a Non-profit agency and attend college working on my degree.
Thank you for reading, stay tuned for the rest of this journey, hopefully I will be able to encourage you in yours.
If any of you are interested in how to better empower yourself against DEADBEAT Parents, please contact me at email drmchsr@yahoo.com and include DEADBEAT Parent in your subjectline. Together we WILL make a difference in the life of our children!
So far so good!
Here I will keeping you posted about my case against my daughter's DEADBEAT father. I have been on this very familiar battleground with this person for some 15 years.
A little history:
I have had legal sole and physical custody of my beautiful daughter who is now 15. This has been a beautiful journey raising her. She is now a Freshman in High School and an Honor Roll student (throughout her schooling). I count my blessings EVERYDAY for the beautiful gift that the good Lord has given me.
Unfortunately, her father (I use that term loosely) has been absent, regardless of the attempts I have made throughout her life to include him. This man is on his second marriage (left his first wife for this one), and thankfully he and I were never married. He severely abuses alcohol and smokes as many as 3 packs of cigs per day. Expensive addictions!
There were times when my daughter would get so upset that she did not have her father, especially after the times when she did meet him and he rejected her and she felt so upset. Her memory of him amounts to nothing more than the 3 months she did see him (when she was 8 years old) on and off (while we lived in the same town in NJ) that he would wake up, drink a cup of coffee and orange juice and the rest of the day it was beer and cigarettes. I, unlike many parents with an absent parent and raising a child, made every attempt NOT to bad mouthed him to her face, nor would I allow her to disrespect him. But, I have always been a firm believer that he was to be accountable for how he was making her feel. There was a short period of time when she would get so upset, and I would listen and then I said "Now, here is a card (3X5 index) and you write how you are feeling. "Today I feel..."" and then once a month we would mail them to him. I will always be here to listen and support her, but he should be held accountable for how he made her feel, whether it was good or bad. This lasted about 2 months then trickled off. Needless to say, she never heard back from him.
He never once sent birthday cards, holidays were here and gone with no contact etc. Even his family disowned her, even prior to birth.
A shame really, but bottomline, whether he is here in person or not, he is still financially responsible to her. NOT TO ME! But to her!
So...for 15 years, I have dedicated my life to raising her in a loving, caring, respectful environment. Not saying I was perfect all these years. No one is, but she knows without a doubt I am and will always be here to love, nurture and support her.
After spending 10+ years working in the medical field clinically, in management and teaching, I have intentially changed direction in my career. I am dedicated to earning my degree as a Paralegal so that I may better advocate against DEADBEAT Parents. I now work for a Non-profit agency and attend college working on my degree.
Thank you for reading, stay tuned for the rest of this journey, hopefully I will be able to encourage you in yours.
If any of you are interested in how to better empower yourself against DEADBEAT Parents, please contact me at email drmchsr@yahoo.com and include DEADBEAT Parent in your subjectline. Together we WILL make a difference in the life of our children!
So far so good!
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